WHAT YOU SHOULD DO WHEN SOMEONE YOU CARE IGNORES YOU

I’m sure almost all people ever experienced this feeling problem. As wise men said, “When you try to catch the world, it leaves you. But when you don’t care of the world, it tries to find you.”

I think the wise words above is mostly right. We often experienced it. We try to get a girlfriend but she doesn’t like us. And when we become indifferent to her, she tries to attract us. That’s similar to two pieces of magnet. The magnet will ignores one to another if they are facing to the same pole. However, they will unite themselves when one is before another, when positive pole is facing negative pole. That’s how the universe works.

Similar to that, a man will not taste the great pleasure when he finds a ‘yes woman’ because there is no challenge that can rise his curiosity. It is not much different when he finds a woman that  he doesn’t like and she doesn’t like him either, the result is failure. The only difference is that the former fails to get better pleasure in the relationship, while the later fails before experiencing the relationship.

As we know, men need challenge to live, to survive, to strengthen their state. When someone is not familiar to facing challenge, he will become a weak person. Consequently, he will not able to face negative force, pressure, or threat. However, challenge is a must for life.

Now, just say the pressure is ‘SOMEONE YOU CARE IGNORES YOU’. What you should do to survive your love to her?

I have some considerations. First, when we do the easiest way, that is using our power to beat her, may be she will fulfill our needs … heartlessly. Or, she will leave us because she thinks that we are an arrogant man. And I think it will not make we find love but failure.

Now,  we are supposed to be patient. As one wants to have sex, he needs foreplay which is usually longer than the penetration itself just to make her comfortable and ready to have an intercourse. It means we should be patient facing her. Besides, she will respect you for your patience and love. She thinks that you are trying to win her heart. More you struggle for her, more she respects you.

So, it can be said that the best way to face ‘some you care ignores you’ is patience. That is patience with struggle. As it is said, “Woman is like a chest bone that is curved. It will be curved forever if we don’t try to make it straight. But It will be broken if we try to straighten it in sudden.” (Doel Mersault)